Very few of our clients have been thrilled about completing the guest list for their big day. You're feeling so excited and joyous about your big day; you want to invite everyone you know. The thought of leaving someone out hurts because it's the one day of your life that you want to share with everyone you cherish. However, reality sets in quickly and you realize that you just can't.
The cost of a wedding isn't the cheapest thing in the world (we're just being honest) and having everyone you know from both the bride and groom sides is just impossible. Making the guest list for your wedding can be sometimes painful but we want to help you with the "trimming process." Here are a few things you can do to navigate through this task.
1. Divide your guest list into group A and B. Group "A" are your absolute must have's. Typically your immediate family and your closest friends. Group "B" are all those remaining. Now, here comes the "trimming." Look closely at group "B" and ask yourself these questions:
1. When was the last time I spoke to this person? Our advice is, if you haven't spoke to them within the last year- "trim" them.
2. How close are you to this person? If this is someone you knew in college but you haven't kept in touch with them- "trim" them. "Stick to the present"
3. Would having this person at your wedding add a real sense of enjoyment to your special day? If this person will likely sit in their assign seat and look around without even a sign they are ecstatic about your big day- "trim" them.
Other ways you can trim your list:
- Have an adult only wedding. Ask your guest to leave the children with a sitter or recommend a children's service provider for your guest. Leaving children out will allow you to invite more adults.
- Don't feel pressured about inviting co-workers to your wedding. You can show them all the candid pictures when you return back to work.
- Don't feel obligated to invite people to your wedding because you were invited to their wedding. They have been through the process, they should understand.
No matter what, you may feel bad about not being able to invite everyone but focus on the real meaning of your wedding. You are about to marry the person of your dreams and that is the MOST important thing.
Continue to plan fabulously!